In an age of technology and ever growing opportunities through the social media world, we struggle with incorporating technology in our ministry, worship, and congregation. There's a line that we are afraid to cross because if we go too far one way we are catering to the younger generation, but, if we go too far the other way we feel like we aren't connecting with the younger adults and youth who are connected to technology. So, how do we reach that balance? How do we catch up with the digital age without offending someone or feeling like we have left someone behind? It's a question I have been pondering for quite sometime.
Let's talk about the areas we all agree on first.
I think it is safe to assume that most congregations have a website and use PowerPoint (or some form of program) for their song service. If we have those things we feel we are set! We are connecting with everyone. If that is the case, why do we still have songbooks in the pews and bulletins in paper form each week? One, there are some people who still prefer the songbook and two, there are some who still prefer their bulletin in paper form instead. Again, there is a balance. With our bulletins we tend to stuff them with information that is constantly being repeated, instead I believe we should make sure the repeating information is part of the electronic bulletin that we place on our website. Our bulletins need to be filled of current information, so our readers will want to read it each week. We have to start connecting technology within our congregation. We are still losing our younger generation. So, the question is how do we connect them with information?
For some people, a newsletter is sufficient. However, we live in a society where it's about the here and now. A generation that does not really plan ahead but goes off the cuff. So, how do we connect with this generation?
There are a number of ways. Let's think about all the avenues we have to put information out in a matter of seconds. Facebook (although this is a declining tool for the younger generation, while the older generation is beginning to jump on board at a higher rate), Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Vine, Snapchat... The list is really endless. Most of our students and young adults, are connected to something on that list. For my student ministry, it's instagram. In fact, I get made fun of because I still have and use Facebook. The majority of their time is spent on Instagram which is a photos app where you can take a picture, add a filter, and upload it for all your followers to see. So, I have created an instagram account for our ministry (@fusionnewsga) where I will find images relating to an upcoming event or I will take a picture of a note I have written to remind them of upcoming events, to share with them things that our other students are doing, etc.
You are not limited in the ways to get the younger generation connected with your congregation or ministry. The limitation is that you may not understand these social media apps, but it is up to us, those who are involved in church work and ministry, to figure it out and to stay on top of the social media trend. When someone talks about Kik, we need to know what that app is. When someone says, "Man you gotta see this video on vine", we need to understand what Vine is.
On the same token, if we are on top of the social media trend, we also understand the dangers that come with certain social media apps and websites. So, it is our responsibility to educate students, parents, young adults on how to be responsible within the realm of social media. It helps our parents to be aware of what their child is doing when they talk about Tumblr, snapchat, or other social media arenas.
Technology can be very beneficial to church work and ministry, if we know what we are doing, use it effectively, and understand our responsibility in finding ways to connect every member of our congregation.
Wednesday, March 26, 2014
Monday, March 10, 2014
Women Have Roles, Too (Part 2)
The continued series on Women Have Roles, Too from the Faulkner Lectureships taught by Dave Baker, Minister, Saltillo Church of Christ.
What would Mary teach the Twelve - and men everywhere - about the ministry of women?
- John 19:25; Luke 23:55
- Matthew 27:59-61
- John 20:10-16
- It was not a man who was first to the tomb, but a woman.
- Jesus has the perfect opportunity to appear to men first, but he chooses to appear to Mary Magdalene who calls Jesus, "teacher".
- Jesus also gives Mary a charge (v 17) to give encouragement to His brothers.
- Mary was there at Jesus' side on the cross, the first one at the tomb, and the first one that Jesus appears to after His resurrection.
- You think she was important to Jesus?
When we think about the role of women in ministry we see a couple of things from Jesus himself:
- Jesus clearly expected the men who followed him to see the value of women in the spreading of the gospel.
- The apostles could not write about or understand the key events surrounding the resurrection without learning it from the women because they were the ones there. They were the eyewitnesses.
- Jesus knew that the Great Commission would be a task so great that the full efforts of everyone - male and female - would be necessary. So, his first act after the resurrection was to mobilize women and send them to their brothers.
- Instead of limiting Mary's ministry because of her questionable past, Jesus expanded her opportunities to serve Him and gave her powerful opportunities to minister to her brothers.
What kind of women do we need involved in ministry?
- Faithful, converted, active, understanding
- Those that are real about their past
- Some of the best connectors are sometimes women and men who have been through difficulties in their lives and are willing to share in that.
- Broken women - Brokeness must be welcomed and not shown
- Rahab: mentioned in James as a model of faith and in Hebrews 11 because of her faith, a former prostitute.
- Mary, Samaritan woman, sinful woman: are all models of faith
Ministry needs to be inter-generational in working and sharing together
Our job is:
- To help women develop gifts - Romans 12:4-8
- To build a culture where women are welcomed into ministry (Titus 2)
- Sound doctrine is about relationships in Titus
- Women are qualified to teach things that some men can't (how to teach a a young woman to love her husband).
- Older women and younger women alike need to be involved in ministry.
Women are important to ministry. They bring qualities to the table that some men just do not possess. We need to view them as important and use them to help us in our personal ministries.
Wednesday, March 5, 2014
Women Have Roles, Too (Part 1)
The lectureship at Faulkner, as a whole, focused on women and the power they've been given by God. This is a current social topic and has been for the last several years as men and women, both, have tried to understand exactly what the women's role was concerning spiritual matters and ministry. One of the most intriguing classes that I was a part of this week was titled, "Women Have Roles, Too" by David Baker.
And it had nothing to do with teaching children's classes, fixing food for the potluck, cleaning the building, and other tasks that we, in the past, have typically given women of the congregation.
I would like to share with you some of the thoughts he had concerning this subject.
First, Bro. Baker, suggested that we are all partners in ministry working together. So, how do we convey we are all partners in ministry? It's important we look at some biblical examples of women in the bible to understand the partnership.
Let's look at Mary Magdalene (Luke 8). She is a wonderful example of what women can bring to the table in regards to ministry. She had a past in that she had been possessed by demons seven times and probably viewed as a social outcast because of these experiences.
To put Mary Magdalene into perspective, her name is mentioned more times out of all the Mary's in the bible, except for Mary the mother of Jesus. That's great company to be in. She was listed as one of Jesus' devout followers.
So, what makes her so special? She was a partner in Jesus' ministry. According to Luke 8 she became part of a privileged group of women from Galilee who, along with the twelve, accompanied Jesus as he traveled and ministered from town to town. She also was a key contributor to the advancement of the kingdom as part of a group of women who helped support Jesus and the Twelve out of their own means.
Why is this so surprising that a woman, like Mary, was a partner in ministry? Women lived more sheltered and confined lives, not typically having conversations with men, especially in public. Education was a male privilege. Also, women didn't have a voice in legal matters and were not accepted as credible witnesses in a court of law.
As you know, Jesus lived a radical life usually associating with people that others would not. He radically broke tradition in all three of the aforementioned matters. He talked to women in public and didn't isolate himself from women like other rabbis. He gave his male disciples a lot to think about when they heard Jesus teaching women the same deep truths He taught them. Jesus saw women to be beneficial to be a partner in his ministry instead of assigning them tasks to complete. Women, also, became key witnesses to some of the most crucial events in human history - the death, burial, and Resurrection of Jesus.
What does this say about women's roles? David Baker put it like this, "Jesus called the twelve men to follow him, but he wasn't starting up a male fraternity or monastery for men. He was creating a family, a body, whose key trademark would be their love for one another and cooperation in the mission of God."
In the next post we will look at what Mary Magdalene taught the Twelve and men about the ministry of women. We will make some observations about the role of women in ministry, what kind of women we need involved in ministry (especially youth ministry), and what our job is to help women.
And it had nothing to do with teaching children's classes, fixing food for the potluck, cleaning the building, and other tasks that we, in the past, have typically given women of the congregation.
I would like to share with you some of the thoughts he had concerning this subject.
First, Bro. Baker, suggested that we are all partners in ministry working together. So, how do we convey we are all partners in ministry? It's important we look at some biblical examples of women in the bible to understand the partnership.
Let's look at Mary Magdalene (Luke 8). She is a wonderful example of what women can bring to the table in regards to ministry. She had a past in that she had been possessed by demons seven times and probably viewed as a social outcast because of these experiences.
To put Mary Magdalene into perspective, her name is mentioned more times out of all the Mary's in the bible, except for Mary the mother of Jesus. That's great company to be in. She was listed as one of Jesus' devout followers.
So, what makes her so special? She was a partner in Jesus' ministry. According to Luke 8 she became part of a privileged group of women from Galilee who, along with the twelve, accompanied Jesus as he traveled and ministered from town to town. She also was a key contributor to the advancement of the kingdom as part of a group of women who helped support Jesus and the Twelve out of their own means.
Why is this so surprising that a woman, like Mary, was a partner in ministry? Women lived more sheltered and confined lives, not typically having conversations with men, especially in public. Education was a male privilege. Also, women didn't have a voice in legal matters and were not accepted as credible witnesses in a court of law.
As you know, Jesus lived a radical life usually associating with people that others would not. He radically broke tradition in all three of the aforementioned matters. He talked to women in public and didn't isolate himself from women like other rabbis. He gave his male disciples a lot to think about when they heard Jesus teaching women the same deep truths He taught them. Jesus saw women to be beneficial to be a partner in his ministry instead of assigning them tasks to complete. Women, also, became key witnesses to some of the most crucial events in human history - the death, burial, and Resurrection of Jesus.
What does this say about women's roles? David Baker put it like this, "Jesus called the twelve men to follow him, but he wasn't starting up a male fraternity or monastery for men. He was creating a family, a body, whose key trademark would be their love for one another and cooperation in the mission of God."
In the next post we will look at what Mary Magdalene taught the Twelve and men about the ministry of women. We will make some observations about the role of women in ministry, what kind of women we need involved in ministry (especially youth ministry), and what our job is to help women.
Monday, March 3, 2014
Family Matters
Do you believe family is important? Do you think studying the bible with your family is a necessity? Does your family serve the community together? Do you view the people of your congregation as your family? What/Who is it that you call family? Are you valuing time with your family at home? at church? Are you neglecting time with your family for other things?
These are questions that have been running through my head lately in regards to ministry. We are seeing a negative trend among families, especially those who attend church, with the decline of devotion to family time. Family time could include eating around a table together, bible study/devotional, watching a movie, etc. Families are simply not making time for family and it is affecting our churches.
Today, I had the privilege of attending a lectureship taught by Jerry Elder (Youth Minister at Spring Meadows Church of Christ) on Family Ministry. He shared a lot of things that I had been thinking lately in regards to youth ministry and how to evolve it into something that is family oriented.
At Rose Hill, we have shifted our focus in our student ministry to be more family oriented. If I am being honest, I know things do not change overnight, but I have been discouraged at the lack of progress in bringing the families in to what we are doing with our ministry. In youth ministry a culture has developed over the last several years (probably since the beginning) of it being a youth only ministry and parents make sure their kids are there, they drop them off, and the youth minister takes it from there. In reality, leaving it up to the youth minister to make sure their child's spiritual development is taken care of. Can I be honest? If parents are not also getting involved with the congregation, bible studies, and things for their own age, how can the parents expect their kids to do the same with the youth group? "Train up a child in the way he should go...." (Proverbs 22:6) Part of that training is allowing your kids to see your actions match your words and be genuine with your faith. I know there are always going to be some families who understand this concept, some who don't, and some who don't want to understand. It's a frustrating and daunting task when getting parents to see that their role in our youth ministry is larger than simply make sure your child is at an event or bible study or whatever else is planned.
This is something I believe in, Family Matters. It matters in our church and in homes. It is something I am not willing to cave in to. I will continue to pray that families will see the importance and need for them in our ministry and that our families who are involved will become the majority instead of the minority. I will pray that our families adopt other students in our youth group who may not have families there and help them to realize the family of God is a forever family and we are in this journey together.
I digress.... Back to the lectureship...
I appreciate very much what Jerry Elder had to say. It was like he read my mind and was able to speak what I had been thinking. Sometimes my thinking is a bit "outside the box" and I get weird looks or shot down because people can't understand my ideas. So, let me share with you some thoughts from Jerry, which I agree with.
In congregations, we do a great job of splitting up our kids, youth, young adults, and adults by age groups. However, we segment them sometimes to the point where they aren't spending time together. Growing up were you ever a part of a bible study or class that your parents were in? Did you grow up having family devotional time at home? The sad reality is the majority would say "No, that did not happen." If there isn't family time at home and there isn't family time at church, then where are our families having family time? The ball field? Drive-thrus? extra curricular activities?
Most of us will say "it starts in the home". Yes, you are right.... but it isn't starting in the home. SO we, as the church, must get back to the idea of family in our churches. Families matter.
Families have mattered from the beginning, from the Old Testament until now. Everything we read in the bible regards the family and how families have passed down there faith through generations of people. We aren't really seeing that in families anymore.
What if we did have family devotionals and we did have classes where parents and children shared in study together. This would maybe jump start and propel that spiritual family time that families need to be having in their home. What if we didn't have youth ministries anymore instead we solely focused on the family by having classes with future parents to help them understand the importance of the parents role in ministry. For those that are reading, we are trying to implement these things at Rose Hill Church of Christ. Why? Family Matters!
One thing, as a minister, that I have to do a better job of is making our youth and family ministry more personal. Parents, your kids are my kids. I want the best for them. I will be there in a time of need. I will be there in victory and defeat. I will watch them achieve great heights and fall to the lowest of lows because these are my kids, as well. I love them unconditionally. I need to play a bigger role in the lives of our families, so that you know we are all in this together.
If we can shift our focus in the church back to families and if families will realize the importance in ministry, the church, and homes we will see growth. Growth spiritually because of a deeper dedication to God and to family, as a whole. Our christian family will begin to realize we are a forever family and that we help each other out in time of need, hurting, and victory!
Family Matters! Do you believe it?
As we continue in 2014, I will continue to think outside the box, to challenge our families, and to push our youth to realize the importance of family (church and physical). I have thought of some great ways to implement this idea in our ministry at Rose Hill and can't wait to get the wheels in motion as we seek to love God, love each other, and love our families!
These are questions that have been running through my head lately in regards to ministry. We are seeing a negative trend among families, especially those who attend church, with the decline of devotion to family time. Family time could include eating around a table together, bible study/devotional, watching a movie, etc. Families are simply not making time for family and it is affecting our churches.
Today, I had the privilege of attending a lectureship taught by Jerry Elder (Youth Minister at Spring Meadows Church of Christ) on Family Ministry. He shared a lot of things that I had been thinking lately in regards to youth ministry and how to evolve it into something that is family oriented.
At Rose Hill, we have shifted our focus in our student ministry to be more family oriented. If I am being honest, I know things do not change overnight, but I have been discouraged at the lack of progress in bringing the families in to what we are doing with our ministry. In youth ministry a culture has developed over the last several years (probably since the beginning) of it being a youth only ministry and parents make sure their kids are there, they drop them off, and the youth minister takes it from there. In reality, leaving it up to the youth minister to make sure their child's spiritual development is taken care of. Can I be honest? If parents are not also getting involved with the congregation, bible studies, and things for their own age, how can the parents expect their kids to do the same with the youth group? "Train up a child in the way he should go...." (Proverbs 22:6) Part of that training is allowing your kids to see your actions match your words and be genuine with your faith. I know there are always going to be some families who understand this concept, some who don't, and some who don't want to understand. It's a frustrating and daunting task when getting parents to see that their role in our youth ministry is larger than simply make sure your child is at an event or bible study or whatever else is planned.
This is something I believe in, Family Matters. It matters in our church and in homes. It is something I am not willing to cave in to. I will continue to pray that families will see the importance and need for them in our ministry and that our families who are involved will become the majority instead of the minority. I will pray that our families adopt other students in our youth group who may not have families there and help them to realize the family of God is a forever family and we are in this journey together.
I digress.... Back to the lectureship...
I appreciate very much what Jerry Elder had to say. It was like he read my mind and was able to speak what I had been thinking. Sometimes my thinking is a bit "outside the box" and I get weird looks or shot down because people can't understand my ideas. So, let me share with you some thoughts from Jerry, which I agree with.
In congregations, we do a great job of splitting up our kids, youth, young adults, and adults by age groups. However, we segment them sometimes to the point where they aren't spending time together. Growing up were you ever a part of a bible study or class that your parents were in? Did you grow up having family devotional time at home? The sad reality is the majority would say "No, that did not happen." If there isn't family time at home and there isn't family time at church, then where are our families having family time? The ball field? Drive-thrus? extra curricular activities?
Most of us will say "it starts in the home". Yes, you are right.... but it isn't starting in the home. SO we, as the church, must get back to the idea of family in our churches. Families matter.
Families have mattered from the beginning, from the Old Testament until now. Everything we read in the bible regards the family and how families have passed down there faith through generations of people. We aren't really seeing that in families anymore.
What if we did have family devotionals and we did have classes where parents and children shared in study together. This would maybe jump start and propel that spiritual family time that families need to be having in their home. What if we didn't have youth ministries anymore instead we solely focused on the family by having classes with future parents to help them understand the importance of the parents role in ministry. For those that are reading, we are trying to implement these things at Rose Hill Church of Christ. Why? Family Matters!
One thing, as a minister, that I have to do a better job of is making our youth and family ministry more personal. Parents, your kids are my kids. I want the best for them. I will be there in a time of need. I will be there in victory and defeat. I will watch them achieve great heights and fall to the lowest of lows because these are my kids, as well. I love them unconditionally. I need to play a bigger role in the lives of our families, so that you know we are all in this together.
If we can shift our focus in the church back to families and if families will realize the importance in ministry, the church, and homes we will see growth. Growth spiritually because of a deeper dedication to God and to family, as a whole. Our christian family will begin to realize we are a forever family and that we help each other out in time of need, hurting, and victory!
Family Matters! Do you believe it?
As we continue in 2014, I will continue to think outside the box, to challenge our families, and to push our youth to realize the importance of family (church and physical). I have thought of some great ways to implement this idea in our ministry at Rose Hill and can't wait to get the wheels in motion as we seek to love God, love each other, and love our families!
Tuesday, February 4, 2014
How do we raise kids who serve?
If I asked your kids, what would they say is at the
heart of what it means to be part of your family? In other words, how would
your kids finish this sentence: “Our family is….”
I grew up with a very strong sense of what it meant
to be a Thompson. We wore our family name with pride, after all, the motto on
our family crest was “Nosce teipsum” or
translated, “know thyself.” We would
never do anything to tarnish the family name, because early on it was instilled
in me what being a Thompson meant. Both by their example and by their words, my
parents instilled in me that being a part of the Thompson family meant you were
hardworking and looked for ways to humbly serve others. Our family is
hard-working servants.
Joy and I hope to instill the same values in our
children, one day… a few years down the road. We pray that our family will be
leaders and learners, people of gentle strength, content risk-takes, and folks
who love and serve God and others. Do we have all the answers? No, and if you are
honest with yourself, you don’t have all the answers even now, as a parent or
when you did have children.
A question you may find yourself asking is, “How can
we be parents who love and serve God and others, and who raise kids who do
likewise?” How can we plant a vision for kingdom service so deeply in our kids
that they can’t help but offer love and hope to those in need? Words and
Actions.
I read about a family that shares this longing that
their kids have a heart for service. They have made a commitment, as a family,
to help folks who are homeless not by giving them money but by buying them a
bag of groceries instead. As their three daughters were growing up, the parents
explained, “Our family does not give money when we are approached on the
street. We buy food instead.” When approached by someone who was homeless, the
parents would run into a nearby supermarket and buy a bag of groceries for the
person in need, often with their daughters in tow.
Recently, their seventeen-year-old daughter was
heading alone into a grocery store when she was approached by a homeless man
who asked her for money. Even though Kristen was alone, she repeated the family
mantra to him: “Our family does not give money. We buy food instead.” She
walked into the grocery store and spent $17 of her own money to buy groceries.
When she returned home, she never asked her parents to reimburse her.
Want your kids to grow up and be servants, to love
the Lord, and be a productive part of society? Show them. Show your children
how to be servants. Show your children that you love the Lord. It’s all about
words and actions, and it all starts with you, the parents, in your own home. After
all, when your kids grow up, they will be a reflection of you. If you are
inconsistent in your spiritual walk, it’s safe to assume your children will be,
as well. If you don’t value God, church, and family as a priority in your life,
study shows that neither will your children. Live your life in the same way you
want your children to live theirs, and you will see a child who loves God and
serves others. “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.” –Proverbs 22:6
Thursday, December 19, 2013
Parent Driven Church: Part 3
We continue with the series on the Parent Driven Church. Our society is moving more and more towards being dependent on ministers and forgetting the groundwork that should be laid in the home so the Youth Minister can supplement that teaching. We need to get back to having a Parent Driven Church and I hope this blog will help you find ways to do exactly that. You can find Part 1 and Part 2 by clicking the link.
Let me provide you with some research. Sociologist, Dr. Christian Smith from the University of Notre Dame conducted a nationwide telephone survey of more than 3,000 teens and their parents, as well as, 267 in-depth interviews and he concluded: "Most teenagers and their parents may not realize it, but a lot of research of sociology of religion suggests that the most important social influence in shaping young people's religious lives is the religious life models and taught to them by their parents."
Yes, there are exceptions but think about it this way. How many hours, on average, does a youth minister spend with your child compared to the hours parents are spending with their children? There is a vast difference in time there. Parents are most certainly the launching pad of their child's faith and because of time spent with them, Parents help to shape, guide, and mold their faith. Don't misunderstand, a Youth Minister's job is very important, as well, the point is Parents need to do a better job at home helping to mold their kids faith.
According to Search Institutes's nationwide study of 11,000 teenagers from 561 congregations, 12% of you have a regular dialogue with their mom on faith/life kids. In other words 1 out of 8 kids talk to their mom about faith. With dads, it is 1 out of 20, or 5%. Approximately 9% of teenagers engage in regular reading of the bible and devotions with their families. Not even 1 out of 10 teenagers are looking at scriptures with their parents.
When you do engage your children in dialogue about their faith, what questions are you asking? Is it the standard, "What did you talk about in church today?" "How was youth group?" "What did you think of the sermon?" and I think we already know the answers to the questions that our teens will respond with. According to Fuller Youth Institute, asking these questions can pay off, but what is really is important is that parents also share about their own faith. It is important that we are not only living out our faith, but talking to our kids about our faith, as well.
There are certain taboo issues that need to addressed and discussed that parents tend to shy away from, and even let the youth minister handle those issues (sometimes with it coming a little too late). For example, according to Kara Powell of FYI, she says, "Two different sets of data indicate that the more important religion (not just Christianity, but also other religions) is to parents, the more difficult it is for those same parents to talk with their kids bout sex." That's pretty disappointing. We have to find a way to have these conversations with our kids in a healthy, balanced, and scriptural way. These conversations help to guide, shape, and mold their faith.
Want to know how we can have a Parent Driven Church? Have a faith driven family that isn't afraid to share or talk about their faith with their kids. Don't avoid taboo conversations and encourage your kids to live out their faith.
*Research found in Chapter 6, "Sticky Family Relationships", in the book Sticky Faith: Everyday ideas to build lasting faith in your kids. Dr. Kara E. Powell and Chap Clark, PhD.
"Parents are usually the most important influence in their kids' lives" - Chapter 6 Stick Family Relationships, Sticky Faith: A Leader's GuideDid you read that carefully? Parents are an important influence for their kids. As a youth minister, it is sometimes exhausting thinking about the responsibility that I have for the students in our ministry and for their faith (and sometimes lack thereof).While adult role models are important and should be a factor on youth ministry, there is nothing more important when it comes to Faith than the Parents.
Let me provide you with some research. Sociologist, Dr. Christian Smith from the University of Notre Dame conducted a nationwide telephone survey of more than 3,000 teens and their parents, as well as, 267 in-depth interviews and he concluded: "Most teenagers and their parents may not realize it, but a lot of research of sociology of religion suggests that the most important social influence in shaping young people's religious lives is the religious life models and taught to them by their parents."
Yes, there are exceptions but think about it this way. How many hours, on average, does a youth minister spend with your child compared to the hours parents are spending with their children? There is a vast difference in time there. Parents are most certainly the launching pad of their child's faith and because of time spent with them, Parents help to shape, guide, and mold their faith. Don't misunderstand, a Youth Minister's job is very important, as well, the point is Parents need to do a better job at home helping to mold their kids faith.
According to Search Institutes's nationwide study of 11,000 teenagers from 561 congregations, 12% of you have a regular dialogue with their mom on faith/life kids. In other words 1 out of 8 kids talk to their mom about faith. With dads, it is 1 out of 20, or 5%. Approximately 9% of teenagers engage in regular reading of the bible and devotions with their families. Not even 1 out of 10 teenagers are looking at scriptures with their parents.
When you do engage your children in dialogue about their faith, what questions are you asking? Is it the standard, "What did you talk about in church today?" "How was youth group?" "What did you think of the sermon?" and I think we already know the answers to the questions that our teens will respond with. According to Fuller Youth Institute, asking these questions can pay off, but what is really is important is that parents also share about their own faith. It is important that we are not only living out our faith, but talking to our kids about our faith, as well.
There are certain taboo issues that need to addressed and discussed that parents tend to shy away from, and even let the youth minister handle those issues (sometimes with it coming a little too late). For example, according to Kara Powell of FYI, she says, "Two different sets of data indicate that the more important religion (not just Christianity, but also other religions) is to parents, the more difficult it is for those same parents to talk with their kids bout sex." That's pretty disappointing. We have to find a way to have these conversations with our kids in a healthy, balanced, and scriptural way. These conversations help to guide, shape, and mold their faith.
Want to know how we can have a Parent Driven Church? Have a faith driven family that isn't afraid to share or talk about their faith with their kids. Don't avoid taboo conversations and encourage your kids to live out their faith.
*Research found in Chapter 6, "Sticky Family Relationships", in the book Sticky Faith: Everyday ideas to build lasting faith in your kids. Dr. Kara E. Powell and Chap Clark, PhD.
Tuesday, December 10, 2013
Parent Driven Church: Part 2
A week ago I started a series on the Parent Driven Church. Our society is moving more and more towards being dependent on ministers and forgetting the groundwork that should be laid in the home so the Youth Minister can supplement that teaching. We need to get back to having a Parent Driven Church and I hope this blog will help you find ways to do exactly that.
Do you remember the first bible you ever received? Maybe it was a New Testament + Psalms bible, maybe you was handed a bible by the Gideons, maybe it was an illustrated bible; however, the one that sticks out in my mind is the bible that had an illustrated cover with a picture of Jesus surrounded by smiling children of all different colors. "Jesus loves the little children... red, yellow, black, and white, they are precious in His sight...." It was a very comforting and calming picture seeing all the children sitting at Jesus' feet, maybe there were even some sheep in the background, a very cute portrayal.
In reality, Jesus' version of relationship, especially inter-generational, was anything but cute. Radical and Revolutionary are the words that come to mind.
Let's look at Luke 9:28-36. Here we see Jesus going up on the mountain and taking Peter, James, and John with Him to pray. Can you imagine what the other 9 who were left behind must have been feeling? I would imagine there might have been some jealousy and insecurity that they felt from being excluded. It wasn't too long after this that an argument breaks out between the twelve disciples about who is the greatest. If you read Luke 9:47, it seems that Jesus doesn't actually hear the argument "knowing their thoughts, He took a little child and had him stand beside Him." Jesus continues in verse 48, "Whoever welcomes this little child in my name welcomes me; and whoever welcomes me welcomes the on who sent me. For it is the one who is least among you all who is the greatest."
Within these two verses, Jesus places two figures before His disciples: himself, whom they respect, and a child, who in that culture held little intrinsic value. The good news: greatness can be pursued and possessed. The bad news: greatness comes from doing something counter-intuitive: welcoming a child.
It's important that we know and understand that Greek phrasing that Jesus uses in this well-known statement about inter-generational relationships. The Greek verb Jesus uses here for welcome is dechomai (deck-oh-my), which often meant showing hospitality to the guests, carrying with it the idea of servant hood. In the first century, the ones who generally took care of guests and children were women and slaves. These people were viewed different from, and even inferior, to male disciples.
In short, Jesus was asking the disciples to show utmost humility by embracing the kids in their midst, instead of arguing about their individual greatness. According to this principle, greatness - and great parenting and great Christian living - comes to light as we welcome children.
Next Blog: Parent Driven Church: Part 3 "Family Relationships"
Do you remember the first bible you ever received? Maybe it was a New Testament + Psalms bible, maybe you was handed a bible by the Gideons, maybe it was an illustrated bible; however, the one that sticks out in my mind is the bible that had an illustrated cover with a picture of Jesus surrounded by smiling children of all different colors. "Jesus loves the little children... red, yellow, black, and white, they are precious in His sight...." It was a very comforting and calming picture seeing all the children sitting at Jesus' feet, maybe there were even some sheep in the background, a very cute portrayal.
In reality, Jesus' version of relationship, especially inter-generational, was anything but cute. Radical and Revolutionary are the words that come to mind.
Let's look at Luke 9:28-36. Here we see Jesus going up on the mountain and taking Peter, James, and John with Him to pray. Can you imagine what the other 9 who were left behind must have been feeling? I would imagine there might have been some jealousy and insecurity that they felt from being excluded. It wasn't too long after this that an argument breaks out between the twelve disciples about who is the greatest. If you read Luke 9:47, it seems that Jesus doesn't actually hear the argument "knowing their thoughts, He took a little child and had him stand beside Him." Jesus continues in verse 48, "Whoever welcomes this little child in my name welcomes me; and whoever welcomes me welcomes the on who sent me. For it is the one who is least among you all who is the greatest."
Within these two verses, Jesus places two figures before His disciples: himself, whom they respect, and a child, who in that culture held little intrinsic value. The good news: greatness can be pursued and possessed. The bad news: greatness comes from doing something counter-intuitive: welcoming a child.
It's important that we know and understand that Greek phrasing that Jesus uses in this well-known statement about inter-generational relationships. The Greek verb Jesus uses here for welcome is dechomai (deck-oh-my), which often meant showing hospitality to the guests, carrying with it the idea of servant hood. In the first century, the ones who generally took care of guests and children were women and slaves. These people were viewed different from, and even inferior, to male disciples.
In short, Jesus was asking the disciples to show utmost humility by embracing the kids in their midst, instead of arguing about their individual greatness. According to this principle, greatness - and great parenting and great Christian living - comes to light as we welcome children.
Next Blog: Parent Driven Church: Part 3 "Family Relationships"
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